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Wednesday, February 22, 2012

The Qualities of Love, Lesson 5

The Qualities of Love, Lesson 5

True Love is not Puffed Up!

1 Corinthians 13:4-7, “Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things” NKJV

Have you ever met a husband (or wife) who thought he was so much smarter than his wife that he seemed to disdain her opinion?  What she thought, or said, didn’t matter and she couldn’t contribute anything to the conversation if he was there?  What did you think of him (or her?) 

Have you ever met a Pastor who thought he deserved a bigger, better church, that he was an eagle on a humming bird’s nest?  Well, I contend there are also husbands who think they deserve a prettier and smarter wife.  There are wives who think they deserve a richer and handsomer husband.  They exist!  Arrogant!

This word (“puffed up”-fusa) is meant to describe this kind of arrogance.  When a person truly loves his companion, his children, and his friends he feels like he has gotten more than he deserves.  He is humbled by what he considers God’s blessings, or his good fortune.  This is what Paul meant when he said Philippians 2:3, “Let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself.”  When you truly love someone, you do that. 

The Greek verb fusa literally means: a bellows.  Just like a blacksmith uses.  True love doesn’t bellow!  True love doesn’t blow hot air, or pop the balloon of a loved one.  Such arrogance makes them almost impossible to talk to.  They are Puffed up!


  1. It's a shame the bible itself promotes such disrespect of women in favor of men being "superior".
    ex: 1 Corinthians 14:34-35
    34)women should remain silent in the churches. They are not allowed to speak, but must be in submission, as the Law says. 35)If they want to inquire about something, they should ask their own husbands at home; for it is disgraceful for a woman to speak in the church.

  2. Actually, I think in the time that these passages was written, the Bible was breaking barriers for women! In those days, men and women sat on opposite sides of the church so if a woman asked her husband a question right in the middle of service, she'd have to disrupt the preacher! Lol!